Life Beyond Abuse: The Jenny Head Story
A Journey from Victim to Survivor
Jackson, MS – By all accounts, Jenny Head’s life was the picture of the American dream. Two children, husband, and small business owner, Jenny had planted firm roots on the Mississippi Gulf Coast. But what we see on the outside, may not always be the reality of what many women and children are experiencing behind closed doors.
Jenny is a tragic example of the hidden nature of domestic violence. Following many years of abuse at the hands of her husband, Jenny’s world was turned upside down. She found out that her husband was not only abusing her but at the same time he was systematically tearing down her successful cleaning business. Having had enough, Jenny garnered the strength to seek out help from the Domestic Violence Center for Women on the Mississippi Gulf Coast.
During this time she found herself at the MDHS office in Harrison County where she came looking for help. “I came from working for myself to being forced to seek assistance from both community based and government assistance programs.” she recalls.
Jenny thinks back to her uncertainty as she entered the MDHS office, stating I walked to the window and said, ‘I don’t know. This is where I’m at, and this is what I’m doing. The lady behind the glass reassured me, ‘It’s going to be okay. We can help you get SNAP so you have food for your kids.’
Through the dedication of her Case Manager, Jenny was not only connected to SNAP but also to Medicaid, a job with a Coast municipality, childcare assistance, and other wraparound services that would empower her during her transition out of her abusive marriage.
With the support of the Domestic Violence Center for Women, along with vital assistance from MDHS, she secured a divorce and a protection order that remains in effect to this day.
With determination, she fought to provide not only security and daily necessities, but to help her children thrive and experience hope. For several years, Jenny continued working in the community, with an ever-growing yearning in her heart to help women and families similarly affected by domestic violence.
Jenny shared her desire to make a difference with a friend who encouraged her to apply for an open clerical position at her local MDHS county office.
Jenny accepted the position as a clerical worker and six months later was promoted to caseworker therefore giving her the opportunity to help women experiencing similar challenges to the ones she had faced.
Jenny now uses her lived experience to dedicate her life to helping families facing similar struggles. “I understand how hard it is to ask for help. My story has empowered me to assist others in need.”
Recently, she helped a woman in a similar situation as her own, connecting her with essential resources for safety and support. She told Jenny that she helped save her and her kids’ lives.
Her commitment to helping others is deeply rooted in her own experiences. “I just know the stages that you can go through,” she says, noting how her understanding resonates with clients. “When I talk to them about their struggles, they realize I truly know what they’re going through.”
Through her journey and experiences helping others, Jenny reflects on the other life lessons she has learned along the way. Recounting the 20 years she spent living in fear as a victim of domestic violence. “I felt like no one cared, and no one would help.”
As a Survivor, “I learned to love again,” she reflects, celebrating her loving marriage of 14 years and the nurturing environment she has built for her children. “Mine is a Cinderella story,”
Jenny emphasized the importance of recognizing that domestic violence affects everyone. “It’s not just women; men experience it too. They need to know that there’s help out there—shelters and resources are available for all.” Her mission is clear: “I’m here for the whole run. I’m not going anywhere. I want to help who I can help.”
As we observe Domestic Violence Awareness Month, MDHS urges the community to remain vigilant and compassionate towards those who suffer in silence. “We must look for signs when someone needs help,” she implores.
MDHS offers a range of support services to help individuals and families affected by domestic violence, including:
- Financial Assistance: Programs such as SNAP (Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program) and TANF (Temporary Assistance for Needy Families) to support families in need.
- Workforce Development: Job training and employment services to help individuals gain skills and find stable employment.
- Food Assistance Programs: Nutritional support through various food programs to ensure families have access to healthy meals.
- Child Care Assistance: Help with finding affordable childcare options for working families.
If you are looking for assistance with any of the programs MDHS offers, please visit mdhs.ms.gov and find your local county office.
“Hopefully, my story can help somebody realize that there is always a second chance,” Mrs. Head concludes. “Just remember, the first time is not always the last time.”
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence or the threat of domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline for help at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), or go to www.thehotline.org for anonymous, confidential online chats, available in English and Spanish.